Wednesday, July 19, 2006


On my way home from my parent's house tonight, I was pondering marriage. Not me getting married, but the idea as a whole. I can't believe how something as sacred as marriage, has turned into this "thing" that people just "do"... like they woke up one morning and just decided they were going to get married.

Having been single, literally forever, I've often pondered how wonderful it would be to stand next to the man God has for me, celebrating the many milestones of life. Three years ago my family celebrated the 50th wedding anniversary of my grandparents. This day was so amazing! My family together, leaving behind all disagreements, all arguments... for these two people, who in a span of 50 years, had 14 children, countless grandchildren, and of course, many trials and tribulations that come with it. I look at them sometimes and wonder what they talk about, but then realize that God has put them here for a reason, together, in this moment.

Then you see the couple who has been married for 20 years, three kids, and the wife has recently been informed that her husband has been having an affair for the last year. Being single, it's hard to trust that God will bring us someone that we're compatible with. It's even harder trusting God that we can actually trust this person; for the rest of our lives.

After all the thinking about marriage and weddings, I got to thinking about my relationship with God. Marriage vows hardly seem worth anything to some people anymore, but sometimes that's how I feel about my relationship with Him. I've made these vows... these wonderful vows, to serve, to praise, to worship Him... but am I doing that? How am I holding to my end of the vows? God is always faithful. He will never break His vows - always there to protect us, to guide us. He never said it would be easy, He said we would never be alone. Which is true, but we need to keep our end of the vows too. Before I can truly long for the one person that God has planned for me, I need to concentrate on keeping my vows to Him and truly have that relationship with Him... not just a "thing" that I decided to "do" one day just because...


Flashy said...

very deep thoughts, I am not sure that I am emotionally ready for marriage now. Lots to think about

gg said...

Nicely put, laffy...very insightful for a "youngun". :)

Love ya!!

Lilly said...

I enjoyed this entry laff... Our relationship to Christ is a covenant relationship - sealed with His blood. Marriage is the same: a covenant relationship... wait for the man you don't want to live without. =)

Rav said...

Hey Laffy,

Good stuff, here. When I make a vow to do something, it is serious business. It is a deep-seeded commitment.

Hopefully as you remain faithful to your vows with the LORD, that you will also see how two people can remain faithful to the vows they give to each other. And I pray that you find a man who honors his vows to you.

God bless, and my prayers are with you.

laffygrl said...

Awww, that's very sweet, rav, thank you. I pray for the same for you (excpet for a woman, of course).